To All the Mothers…

Mother’s Day 2010 forever changed my feelings regarding this day. I would like to say that I can look at each year as a new and different experience and I believe for the most part, I do that with other aspects of life. Unfortunately, Mother’s Day has remained a negatively tainted day for me that […]

Acknowledge Your Spouse!!

If you were like the other millions of people in the country, you watched Kobe Bryant’s last basketball game. At the end of the game, when he was given the floor to address his fans, he thanked his wife for all the sacrifices she has made in holding down the fort at home, so that […]

Dear Charise – My Family is Not Inclusive

It’s the Holiday Season!! This time every year, my practice doubles with clients. Despite the Holidays being a time of joy and togetherness, it often times conjures up negativity. Since Summer vacation, I have received numerous ‘Dear Charise’ emails regarding family or in-laws not including others in family get-togethers. I have received many more as […]

Why Do People Do Bad Things?

I was having a crap day. I was feeling sad, angry, and disappointed. I was feeling frustrated that people couldn’t care enough about others to make them feel safe, protected, and mostly loved. And then……I come home to the news of what occured in Paris. As my emotions began to rise, I could not help […]

Dear Charise – My Wife and I are Divorcing because of Our Parenting Styles

Dear Charise, My wife and I have constantly argued because we simply do not parent the same way and it has been a source of constant contention in our marriage. I parent my children with discipline, responsibility, and accountability. I know that you too, live in Orange County and I refuse (despite how much money […]

My Fantasy of Motherhood is Not My Reality

Mother’s Day can be a sensitive day for many. And although I have typically honored Mother’s Day weekend with a positive post in the past, this year I hesitated as I came across many women who were struggling. I felt so much compassion and empathy as I listened to their stories. I could not help […]

Dear Charise, I Do Not Want to Deal with the Transgender Issue

Dear Charise, I am very upset. My children and I were watching a family movie on ABCFamily and in the middle of the movie, they aired a commercial depicting families going through transgender issues of children dealing with their parent’s sexual reassignment. I was so shocked and surprised as my older child (9 years old) […]

What I Want Men to Know, From a Woman

The other week, I shared how disheartened I was by what men were saying these days. I grew up with fairly “traditional” men. I never heard my father, grandfather, or uncles complain about how hard they had to work in life. I never heard them complain or speak about their wives in a condesending manner. […]

Do You Like What You See When You Look in the Mirror?

Who do you see when you look in the mirror? I can try and be philosophical and inspirational with a positive twist here. But, I’m not going to because what I see in the mirror these days is a complete mess. I know that is relative, as my friends will probably disagree with that statement. […]

School has Begun!

I’m back from taking a short break to regroup myself from the inevitable first two weeks of school. My two older kids started school last week, only to show that 6am wake-up calls is not for everyone. My third child doesn’t begin pre-K until after Labor Day and schedules are already in full swing. School, […]