In a World of Versus

Pro-Vaccines Versus Anti-Vaccines

Western Medicine Versus Eastern Medicine

No Technology Versus Owning most updated technology

Homeschool Versus Private School Versus Public School

Organic Food Versus I don’t care what I eat

Religion Versus Atheist

Pro-Life Versus Pro-Choice

At-Home Mom Versus Professional Working Mom

European Cars Versus American Cars

Democrats Versus Republicans

It is has been 6 months since I last posted anything. I have had difficulty with going on-line and looking at the headlines of articles and blogs and I will not even begin to describe my frustrations and anger when trying to open social media outlets. It has honestly been exhausting. Let’s put politics (or Donald Trump) aside for just one moment. The last 6 months has intensified our already world of differences. I saw this world of differences in a much more profound way as I entered adulthood and my friends were criticized for their “ultra-religious” views or when my married friends were questioned because one no longer needs an official certificate to bond their relationship. Then, I entered the world of motherhood and “versus” became the life in which all people needed to navigate through. The moms who would only feed their babies organic food versus those who were perfectly content buying baby jars at the grocery store. The moms who would absolutely refuse vaccines versus those who believed in it. The moms who would only maintain a strict and structured schedule versus the moms who were more flexible about routines. And, of course, the moms who stayed home versus those who left to go to a professional job setting. The list has always been there and after the last year, I fear that the list will simply be ever-growing.

So, what exactly are my thoughts regarding us continuing to live in a world of differences? This is what I know. My friends and even my family have vastly different thoughts, opinions, and feelings from regarding an array of topics – religion, politics, child-rearing, values, etc. I also know that despite those differences, these are people that I still respect and yes, love. I love my friends. My friends who do not agree with me. My husband who does not always agree with me. My family who can criticize my belief systems. And, I will continue to do so.

This is what I learned from the last few months during the election and even currently. People will be passionate about their thoughts. And that is ok. However, we are made up to be a beautiful world because of our differences and how we can and should challenge each other (constructively!!) to all be better people. But, I refuse to immerse myself in social media or news outlets where the communication style is demeaning, angry, and unkind. Regardless of what occurs politically or not, will not affect how I will raise a piece of the future – my children. I will raise my children to be kind, respectful of all people’s opinions regardless of how dumb we think it is, and mostly, to be tolerant. They will not be violent, they will not use vile language to try and get their point across, and they will judge one person on their character and not solely on their belief systems. The fact of the matter is that they will need these tools because there will be many other presidents elected that they may or may not care for; there will be new life philosophies that they may or may not succumb to; there will be many other laws put into affect that should not dictate how they behave towards their fellow man; and there will be many other inventions and technological advances that can possibly inhibit the ability to truly connect with each other through openness, kindness, and respect.

We cannot necessarily change that we will forever live in a world of “versus” but we can change how we react and treat each other in spite of differences.


Charise Casiano

About Charise Casiano

Charise obtained her BA degree at California State University, Stanislaus and immediately pursued her MS degree at Mount Saint Mary’s College. During her college years, Charise left for one year to do missionary work. She traveled the United States troubleshooting with teenagers.