To All the Mothers…

Mother’s Day 2010 forever changed my feelings regarding this day. I would like to say that I can look at each year as a new and different experience and I believe for the most part, I do that with other aspects of life. Unfortunately, Mother’s Day has remained a negatively tainted day for me that […]

Acknowledge Your Spouse!!

If you were like the other millions of people in the country, you watched Kobe Bryant’s last basketball game. At the end of the game, when he was given the floor to address his fans, he thanked his wife for all the sacrifices she has made in holding down the fort at home, so that […]

The Day I had a Panic Attack When My Daughter Said She Wanted to be Just Like Me!!

Let’s be truthful. I am a pretty good actress. I am not boasting – My husband will reassure you this is true and my daughter validated this thought not too long ago. I walk out of my home looking put together. I present calm and collected. I speak well. I manage my emotions to the […]

Dear Charise – My Family is Not Inclusive

It’s the Holiday Season!! This time every year, my practice doubles with clients. Despite the Holidays being a time of joy and togetherness, it often times conjures up negativity. Since Summer vacation, I have received numerous ‘Dear Charise’ emails regarding family or in-laws not including others in family get-togethers. I have received many more as […]

Dear Charise – I Love My Husband, But I Still Think About My Ex

Dear Charise, I have been for the most part, happily married to my husband for 16 years and we have a beautiful family of 3 children. I know that my husband loves me. We have a gorgeous home, our children are privileged with life experiences such as traveling, I get to be an at-home mom; and yet, for […]

Who You Marry Will Be the Most Important Decision You Make

In life, there are many decisions we make. Some decisions impact us greatly with positive and/or negative consequences and some are quickly forgotten. However, with the decision to choose a spouse, this is one that will impact you in both ways FOREVER. In leui of my last post from the divorced dad and the scandal […]

Dear Charise – My Wife and I are Divorcing because of Our Parenting Styles

Dear Charise, My wife and I have constantly argued because we simply do not parent the same way and it has been a source of constant contention in our marriage. I parent my children with discipline, responsibility, and accountability. I know that you too, live in Orange County and I refuse (despite how much money […]

When Your Kids Get in the Way

Two more weeks and summer vacation will come to an end. The kids are now back into the rountine of their extra-curricular schedules, with their backpacks filled with school supplies and their uniforms, washed and hung. We are headed back to the routine of getting through our days filled with clients, meetings, books, projects, homework, […]

My Fantasy of Motherhood is Not My Reality

Mother’s Day can be a sensitive day for many. And although I have typically honored Mother’s Day weekend with a positive post in the past, this year I hesitated as I came across many women who were struggling. I felt so much compassion and empathy as I listened to their stories. I could not help […]

Dear Charise, I Do Not Have a Hallmark Relationship with My Mother

Dear Charise, As Mother’s Day approaches, it is always difficult for me to find an appropriate card. I respect and love my mother; however, I simply do not and have never had a “Hallmark” relationship with her. I never had the relationship with her that I saw my girlfriends had with their mothers where they […]